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How to Cope with Relationship Stress

Every couple goes through ups and downs in their relationship. The stress can come from health issues, the bad economy, or just the regular strain of everyday life. These suggestions will help you take care of the situation

Talk about it

Talk to your boyfriend/girlfriend about what is stressing you out. Don’t be afraid of what they are going to think. If they really love you, they will understand and try to help.

Take time out

Take a break from him/her. It doesn’t have to be a long break, just take some time to just be friends. Don’t worry about that dating mess. If you stop and smell the roses, you can always start over.

Be true to yourself

For a set period of time, try not to worry about what your sweetie wants or needs. Think about yourself, so you don’t have a breakdown. Spoil yourself with whatever makes you happy.

Practise acceptance

Look for an answer to the problem if possible, but realise some problems don’t have easy and obvious solutions. If there was an easy answer, you would have already done it! Acceptance doesn’t mean you like or approve of something. It’s simply pausing and noting where you are.

Stay on the same team

Acknowledge the fact that the situation is stressful, but that neither you nor your partner is to blame. One way to do this is to make “I wish” statements. For example, if you are incredibly busy and don’t have as much time for each other as you’d like, you should both make an effort to say things like, “I wish I had more time to spend with you. I really miss you,” or “I wish things were different for you and me right now.”

Rally your resources

Depending on the situation, it can also help to look for outside support. You can get through your stress by surrounding yourself with your true friends and the people you can trust. Think about friends or family you can reach out to for support.

Be comfortable with flexible roles

During times of stress, it’s natural to become more rigid and set in your ways. But this is exactly the time when it’s helpful to be flexible with everything from who does the chores to who carries the emotional load.

Show tolerance for each other’s reactions

Not everyone reacts to stress in the same way, and no one way is right or wrong. For example, you might be more likely to zone out watching sports and your partner is more likely to have a good cry.

Laugh when you can

Nurturing your sense of humour can be another great asset in learning to embrace the ups and downs. Try saying something out of character to shake things up a bit.

Make a survival plan.

Figure out what really needs to be done, and what can wait until things get back to normal. Try to reduce both your loads in whatever ways you can. Make sure that both you and your partner are eating and sleeping as well as you can. And keep your expectations realistic. Sometimes simply making it through the day can be a big accomplishment for couples going through a stressful time.

Find small ways to stay connected

If you’re going through difficult times, feel drained, and don’t have much energy to care for your relationship, at least look for ways to stay connected. For example, small acts of affection are helpful.

Practise compassion

Realise that both you and your partner are doing the very best you can at this precise moment.

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